Living in Gratitude

121138 Living in Gratitude changes the scope of our perception

WHY IS IT SO IMPORTANT to talk about gratitude?  Most of us give thanks for our blessings on a regular basis, don’t we?  There are even those who work with gratitude journals as a daily practice.  Practicing gratitude is a wonderful way to uplift our spirit and keeps us from getting too caught up in the uncertainties present within our environment.  Living in gratitude from this perspective is almost a journey within itself because ultimately it is about becoming more aware in our daily lives, and being mindful of everything that sustains our life physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.  Being grateful therefore, is important because it greatly affects how we view and experience our individual lives and life as a whole.

Why do some people seem more grateful than others?  The level of our gratitude is based on our conditioning and how our life experiences have influenced us and the choices we may have made thereof.  For example, my childhood was not very joyful, and as an adult did not always make sound decisions which of course, created more unhappiness and chaos.  I came to understand that having come from painful places made it difficult for me to see clearly through the filters of the pain I experienced…even if only on a subconscious level.  I always felt grateful and happily expressed the appropriate thank you’s whenever warranted, yet realized later on that gratitude goes much deeper than that.  And while I also maintained a pretty positive outlook on things, looking back on it, realize that my view of life was a bit skewed and understand more clearly how that affected the level of my gratitude and therefore the state of my circumstances.

This all came to my realization during a workshop I facilitated in which gratitude was an integral part. During the process of sharing what we were grateful for, someone (who I knew was going through a rough time) asked me this question in a somewhat skeptical fashion, “Well, how much can a person be grateful for?”  It1383663_729582190390084_1345031720_n caught me off guard at first, until I recalled my own feelings of the past, and realized that perhaps we had pain and suffering in common.  This experience gave me incredible insight into our divine connection to each other, and how the Universe supports us through these interactions to help us evolve into our wholeness.

The more grateful we are, the more we will have to be grateful for.  Why?  Because gratitude vibrates at higher frequencies and naturally attracts more of what resonates with that same level of energy.  The encouragement here is to gently work at practicing gratitude regardless of what may be going on and look for the beauty in every situation, even when it feels almost impossible to do so.  Everything does happens for a reason even if we don’t understand it at the time…just be open to its unfoldment.

One of the ways that can help us open up even more to the blessings of gratitude is to let go of all the things that no longer serve us.  This of course in an individual journey, so what we choose to let go of will be different for each of us.  Perhaps though, it could be letting go (in love) of anything we may feel guilty or ashamed about.  These two things alone, coming from my own past experiences, seems to cloud our vision to the vast beauty expressing all around us, and therefore limiting our level of gratitude.  Holding on to these feelings can keep us from loving ourselves and not feeling worthy to receive life’s blessings.  We may want to consider being free of those things by forgiving ourselves and anyone else that may be involved in those painful situations.  This is a process and may not be easy at first, yet when we practice gratitude and perhaps learn to treat ourselves like our own best friend, we will find a way to do this with gentleness and compassion.

Acceptance is the first step in our ability to move forward.  We cannot change the past other than to change our perception of it through forgiveness and the recognition that we did the best we could with the information we had at the time.  We can however, change and build on those past perceived mistakes in our present circumstances.  (Perceived mistakes because there are no mistakes, only those things that help us to grow).  Everything that we have experienced makes up who we are 855176-bigthumbnailtoday…let’s honor it.  We are encouraged then to again, accept what happened, look for the beauty or pearls of wisdom, be grateful for what it may have taught us, and perhaps create something magnificent out of those seemingly negative events.  And whenever we become aware of having a negative thought about any situation, past or present, let us begin changing it by replacing it with gratitude.  The truth is, we do not want to focus on the negative, because we will attract more of the same.  That is how the Universal Laws work.

When we learn to live in gratitude, we will feel lighter and begin to recognize all the ways in which we are blessed and the grace that surrounds us in every moment.  We will see things in nature that perhaps we did not notice before.  We will become more grateful for the people in our own lives and beyond that, and begin to realize just how connected we really are and replace judgement with compassion.  We will  begin to honor ourselves and become stronger within our own integrity and have the courage to stand by it.  We will be more open and honor the individuality in others even when we disagree.  We may even learn to simply say “thank you” without discounting a compliment.  (I definitely needed to learn this one.)   We will be more supportive of others because we will see them through different eyes.  Our self-esteem and self-worth will be lifted up to a place of knowing we are deserving of everything.  We will be more present in our life and at peace with ourselves.  And in the silence of that peace, we will discover endless possibilities in which to practice gratitude and open up the channels for love expressing itself more profoundly as us in the process.

Thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts with you.  Namaste’.

In Love, Light and Divine Inspiration,

Dr. Regina J. Dekker, Msc.D.





Dr. Regina J. Dekker, Msc.D


10 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Lissa Masters
    Mar 08, 2012 @ 10:03:40

    Beautiful Regina! Thoughtful and well -said. xo


  2. Rose Dawson
    Mar 12, 2012 @ 15:29:55

    Thankyou this is so truthful, I want to shout it out! The world and it’s people need to listen to these words.


  3. Rose Dawson
    Mar 12, 2012 @ 15:32:15

    Worth reading! values to follow.


  4. Daily Spiritual Tools
    Mar 16, 2012 @ 17:36:05

    Gratitude is one of the most powerful spiritual tools we have. The most basic prayer has only two words, “Thank you.” Another favorite tool is a gratitude list. Thank your for this wonderful reminder. Blessings, Sherry


    • Dr. Rev. Regina J. Dekker, Msc.D.
      Mar 16, 2012 @ 22:44:30

      Thank you Daily Spiritual for your blessings. I agree, if the only words we ever spoke were “Thank You”, it would be enough. I started to use it in my Blog but chose something else…thank you for bringing it up.

      Many blessings to you as well. Dr., Rev. Regina


  5. Barbara-Lynn Freed
    Mar 22, 2012 @ 15:05:16

    Thank you Regina for inviting me to read your well-written blog article on gratitude. You certainly has covered all of this topics many facets. I find that by living in gratitude, I enter a place of synchronicity, or a state of grace where what ever I need simply comes to me.


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