Filling In The Gap

___The_Door_to_the_Universe____by_greenfeedWhat would you bring forward if there was nothing standing in the way of your vision?  And how would you go about “filling in that space in-between the magic of your imagination and your reality?

We have all been given the greatest gift of all…the magnificent gift of life.  So, how do we unwrap this incredible package to reveal the most beauty from its very dynamic essence?

Most of us did not think of our lives as being gifted to us.  We were simply birthed into our existence with a subconscious existence (for the most part) with much to learn.  We began our journey as children profoundly in awe of everything around us and with the complete absence of fear.  That is until we became naturally conditioned to the ways of the world and in particularly our immediate surroundings.  And so the journey of our ever expanding life begins.

Up to this point in our lives, we have lived through many experiences that have made us into the people we are today.  And for this, we are encouraged to be immensely grateful, for everything along our path has made a significant difference to our spiritual evolution.  Although we may not have understood what those significant differences were especially during our most challenging times, we may have come to a deeper understanding of why we experienced them simply because of the wisdom we may have gleaned from them.  And because of those experiences, many of us have taken complete responsibility for our lives today, clearly because the way we handled things before were not working for us. 

Perhaps we were inspired by someone or something that moved us so profoundly that it caused us to think more seriously about making some important changes. Maybe it was something we experienced along the way that was so painful that it brought us literally to our knees.  However this shift happened, coming to this point along our journey is a beautiful and powerful realization of our Divinity, for this is where we begin to fill in the gap with all the things that appear to have been missing.  This is where we begin to understand that it was not only that “something” that brought us to our knees, it was all of our challenges that culminated into its final stages as a catalyst for change.  This “something” merely served to get our attention…our Divine attention. 

hands_worldYes, our Divine Attention.  For we are Divine…the greater “I Am” that exists within each and every one of us as our Higher Self or the Higher Consciousness of our beingness.  We have grown to live within our experiences from our “I-ness” of who we are, which some may refer to as the Ego Self.  From this perspective, our “I-ness” (Ego Self) serves to help us understand our true nature through our physical experiences, and inspiring us to merge with our “I Am…ness” as one continuous flow of Divine Energy.  And when we are open to this Divine Flow, we will be guided even more profoundly through our Authentic Soulful and Spiritual Nature.  We are in essence living from the inside out and from the outside in.

Learning to accept all that we are is the first step into merging with our Higher Self (our “I Am”).  This means not denying any part of who we are or how we may have expressed ourselves in our past, and how we are expressing ourselves today. The truth from this perspective is that who we think we are is merely a perception of who we are.  We are indeed spiritual beings having a human experience, so who we are is much greater than what we may see through our physical perception.  We are however invited to consider that it is through our physical nature that our spiritual nature is revealed…through our physical experiences as previously mentioned.

This is why we are encouraged to fully accept, honor, respect, and be grateful for our physical bodies, our feelings, our emotions, and everything else in-between.  It is only through our acceptance that we are able to gently let go of those things that no longer serve our well-being such as the emotions of regret, guilt, and shame.  In so doing, we will begin the process of “filling in the gap” by choosing to heal those things that keep us from moving forward, and bringing to light more of who we are designed to be as individual and unique souls.  Again, this is not to say that we do not honor those emotions as mentioned earlier, we are simply encouraged to be honest about having them and accepting them as part of our healing process by using them as a catalyst for changing the way we feel about ourselves, and therefore how we experience our lives moving forward.thCA6E4A2Q

So, where is this gap you might ask?  Simply put, the gap is that space between how we have been conditioned to be through the influences of our environment and the people therein.  This includes what we have been told about whom we are and any other perceived beliefs that have influenced our individual lives…through the love of well-meaning people.

 …AND what we absolutely know with an undeniable passion to be our own truth, but have been reluctant to proclaim for fear of not fitting in or any other apprehensions we may have.  The interesting thing is that we may not know what those things might be at first thought. However, when we learn to be still, listen intuitively, and feel the very essence of our being, we will come to know who we are through our feelings, emotions, perceptions, and so on.  We may even want to take a look back at our childhood and remember what we liked to do, where our passions lie, what we were drawn to, what we aspired to be when we grew up, and other significant considerations.  Considering all of these things will help us to recognize what truly is Authentic about our own individual nature and the deeper truth of who we are in our Oneness.  Having the courage to be our Authentic Self is highly essential in the greater scheme of things for it is through our embodiment of it that we gain a deeper sense of our own incredible aliveness, and able to fulfill our greater vision to live from within our own values and beliefs which not only serves our own well-being, but serves us all in Divine Consciousness.

Dancing AngelSo, what do we value?  What do we believe?  And how can those values and beliefs help us to fill in the gap of our own inner consciousness, and ultimately our physical manifestations?  What about our dreams?  Aspirations?  All of these things and more are integral parts in filling in the space within our consciousness that are still awaiting our response.

How do we fill this gap?  How we do it of course if a personal matter.  The invitation here is for us to gently observe without judgment how we relate to life within our environment which includes what we value, what our beliefs are, and the people we interact with to see if they are still in alignment with our own sensibilities as we currently understand them to be.  This is an area in which we may want to make any necessary changes and/or adjustments that resonate more readily with how we express ourselves today.  This is also the space in which we release and let go of the things that no longer serve us (always in the same love they were given) and allow ourselves to be receptive to the things that do honor the vision we hold for ourselves.  And we are encouraged to move through this natural process of growth with compassion for ourselves and those involved…along with a deep sense of gratitude for every experience.  This is what learning to live authentically is all about.

the-door_422_13737And it is throughout our magnificent journey that we are encouraged to understand that while we are invited to “fill in the gap”, it is within this same space that we are always moving in the direction of Divine Order in which there is no right or wrong. How so?  We are simply growing and outgrowing, releasing and receiving, open and receptive, and allowing life to flow naturally throughout our ever-evolving Authentic State of Love, Light and Divine Inspiration…that ultimate space in-between our Human Consciousness and our Higher Consciousness.    

So, are you ready to take the leap?  Are you ready to be more involved in co-creating (with Spirit) your own life knowing that when you rise up to the level of your Higher Consciousness, you raise the vibration of Love, Peace, Harmony, and the greater well-being of us all…in Divine Consciousness?  We walk together in this life, and are always encouraged to remember, that every one of us is always supported by a most Loving and Powerful Universe.

Thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts with you.  Namaste’.

Dr. Regina J. Dekker, Msc.D.



Dr. Regina J. Dekker, Msc.D.


Going With The Flow…


When we go with the flow of whatever is happening in our lives, we will come to realize that harmony and divine order is always unfolding because they are in agreement with our thoughts, words, and actions. This is a beautiful thing…

ARE YOU GOING WITH THE FLOW?  If so, what do you think it means from the standpoint of spiritual growth?  And if not, do you think it matters?  Let me begin by saying that we are always right where we need to be, and that everything  happens exactly the way they are meant to happen.  This may seem a bit unrealistic especially considering some of the extraordinary challenges we may have had to face.  You may even wonder if everything happens just the way they are meant to, why are we trying to grow in the first place?  Are we just here to live out our destiny?  Having been asked these questions after a recent talk inspired me to share some thoughts with you about it, keeping in mind that much of what we manifest comes from a subconscious level of our awareness or an even deeper aspect of our eternal soul.

Throughout our soul’s journey, we have encountered many circumstances that have inspired us to continue moving forward on our path with great joy and anticipation.  We have demonstrated many rewards given our talents and abilities to excel in the things we are passionate about.  We are also blessed to live in a land of prosperity and abundance and therefore have the privilege to enjoy many things that reflect the outpicturing of all we have thought possible.   It really goes without saying then that when things are going great, it is very easy for us to go with the flow.

What about those time when we feel challenged?  Do we still feel blessed and want to go with the flow?  Many of us have experienced the kind of pain that seemed too much too bear, much less overcome.  It is within these moments that we may begin to understand that we cannot control how things happens in our lives.  Going with the flow during these heavier moments takes great courage and a kind of unwavering faith in a Higher Power within us that is much greater than the pain that we may be suffering.  We need only to be open to it and allow ourselves to be guided  through these moments of great change.

Many of us have envisioned our lives to turn out a certain way, and find ourselves being either overjoyed or disappointed when the looks of it changed.  We might ask ourselves, “What did I do to deserve this?” or “Why is this happening to me?”  Life is an eventful journey, and everything we encounter is meaningful.  Why?  Because ultimately, we are always in the flow of our own divine consciousness whether we are aware of it or not.  Meaning that our lives always unfold in divine order in accordance with our level of awareness at any given time, and in keeping with the spiritual laws of the Universe which always responds in kind.  There is no right or wrong, life simply moves in a natural flow of consciousness which cannot be measured, but can be seen through what we bring forward into our experiences.

For instance, many years ago I was fired from a job where I had worked for several years with an outstanding record.  I could not believe it!   How could this have happened to me?  I have always been a good employee!   My emotions ran rampant including feeling the shame of losing what I felt was my dignity and self-esteem.  Not to mentioned the uncertainty of wondering how I was going to provide for my son.  The realization came to me that I did not want to be employed there any longer, and subconsciously sabotaged myself by not working up to my normal standards.  Not only that, I was already looking for another job!  So, could we agree that my being fired was actually a outpicturing of my thoughts?  That perhaps the Universe was naturally creating out of the energy I was putting out there?  I did not want that job…right?  I just did not know how powerful my thoughts were at the time, and how they had the creative ability to move things before I was even ready to deal with the consequences.  I was simply given my desired outcome, which was directed by my thoughts and the actions that followed.  The how and when was never in my control.

We are encouraged to accept every moment for exactly what it is regardless of what it may look like.  It is through this acceptance that we gain the wisdom to understand that everything we experience has brought us to the next moment in which we have the power to create something new or recreate something  different out of an existing challenge.  It is important for us not to resist what is happening because when we do, we are actually giving it more energy to create more of the same due to the concentrated attention we are giving it.  The frustration we may feel also adds to the intensity of the energy.   In the long run, it is much easier to go with the flow and making peace with whatever the challenge may be.  It frees us up to be present for something much greater to unfold.

Life is like a beautiful river moving forward in a continuous flow.  There may be rocks or boulders, trees and other obstacles that stand in the way of its flow, but if you will notice, the water will move over, under, and around them in order to keep the water moving forward.  The river will also be calm in places or burst forth into heavy currents along the way, as well as the water falling downward into deeper waters.  We will also observe the river taking different turns going various directions creating yet another way for the water to move along its path.  There will be some stretches of water that reflects the light, and other part that may seem dark and murky.  Do you see the resemblance?  This is authentic about our own beautiful nature.  In fact, we are nature in human form.

We are always guided by our thoughts which influence the words we speak and the actions we take.  And those actions are reflective of how we relate to the world with our own unique personality, which dictates the way we experience our lives.  This is why we are encouraged by Lao Tzu to live in mindfulness in our daily lives.  Whatever the level of our awareness,  just know that everything we experience is significant to our spiritual growth and unfoldment.   We all have a divine purpose for being here, and it is up to us to uncover what that is if we choose to follow our soul’s guidance.  In essence, we have both a destiny and freedom of choice.  It is up to us to determine how to move forward by choosing what is right for us…not what is deemed right by others. And likened to a river, we have the power to change directions and find another way to move forward on our journey.  There is no right or wrong way.

Life is truly a magnificent journey complete with all the laughter, the tears, and every heartfelt emotion.  Allow it all to flow naturally by letting go of the need to control.  Let us observe our lives without judgment of ourselves and others.  Be inspired by the knowledge that we have the power to direct our lives to a greater degree when we learn to be more conscious of our thoughts.  Let us remember to be gentle with ourselves  in the process.  The more we practice going with the flow, the calmer we will become, and the more at peace we will be because we won’t be taking ourselves so seriously.   Take time to laugh, play and enjoy life.  Take time to observe the harmony in nature.  And, remember that we are always supported by a most loving and supportive Universe.

Thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts with you.  Namaste’.

In Love, Light and Divine Inspiration,

Dr. Regina J. Dekker, Msc.D.





Dr. Regina J. Dekker, Msc.D.