Self-Reliance – The Nature of Being

work_7347691_5_flat,300x300,075,tLiving authentically through our physical nature guided by our spiritual essence can lead us into great change and transformation, and back into the enlightened Beings that we truly are…

In our utmost Authenticity we are Pure Consciousness and are the very essence of Love, Light, Joy, and Divine Inspiration.  We are Pure Spirit.  We are Mind in action.  We are a Soul, the Witness, the Observer, the Seer, and all else that identify the I AM…ness of all that exists within us, through us, around us, and as us.  We are Spiritual Beings having a Human Experience.  We have chosen to be here…NOW.

AND SO, HERE WE ARE.  In our physical bodies.   In this moment.  Living in the Now.  How do we incorporate all that we are in our spiritual essence into our human experience?  Is there an authenticity about our human nature as well?  And, what does Self-Reliance have to do with Authenticity? 

Being self-reliant is at the very heart of who we are in our authenticity because it emanates from our spiritual essence.  It is that genius within us all.  It is our divinity.  It is the very knowing that whatever we need resides within us as the absolute power to direct our lives with a deeper sense of our aliveness.  We are simply encouraged to become aware of this power and embody it fully into our humanness for the greater enjoyment of our physical journey.  Let us remember that while we may understand who we are in our higher level of consciousness, we are also encouraged to find the balance between our spiritual beingness and keeping it “real” in our physical existence.  We are encouraged to honor our bodies and how it serves us through every facet of our experiences, for we are pure consciousness in physical motion.  We are the very essence of how life expresses through and as us.  We are the magnificent out-picturing of Love.  We are in spiritual partnership with Life.

thCAZYUPP0For many of us, our physical journey thus far has taken us into places that have kept us from knowing our utmost divinity.  How did this happen?  Before we move into a place of judgment, let us remember that we were all born into and influenced by the traditions of our family environment, immediate surroundings, as well as the collective consciousness…all of which continues to be a factor unless we choose otherwise.  We have also been conditioned by and through all that we have personally experienced.  All of these things and more have created our beliefs and belief systems.  And all of these things have made a significant difference in our internal makeup…some of which have caused us to move from our inherent love to the learned fear that blocks our divine light and natural radiance.  The wisdom we can glean from this  is that we also have the innate power to change anything we choose to change through the unstoppable power of our self-reliant nature.

When we have the desire to create change in our lives, taking full responsibility for how we go about it may not always be an easy choice.  When we do choose to follow our own way of being, we may need to find the courage to step out of our comfort zone and into the unknown with a deeper sense of our divine nature.  We may need to begin by being totally honest with ourselves.   And when we are ready, we may need to be open and honest with others as well.  While it is easy to accept the wonderful things we experience to be harmonious and in divine order, we may also need to accept every mistake, every challenge, and every difficult situation within the same frame of mind.  We may need to release those things that no longer serve us, which includes the people who no longer lift our grace and make us feel good about ourselves.  We may need to be open to the people who truly resonate with us, and with whom we can create meaningful relationships.  We may need to become aware and embrace our own projections.  We may need to learn to love ourselves unconditionally. We may need to be open and receptive to change.

stone-buddha-head-nestled-in-the-tree-roots-ayutthaya-thailand+1152_12971659706-tpfil02aw-23770How can we fully accept everything that happens to us as being in divine order?  And how do we find harmony when we feel challenged?

Many of us believe that harmony and divine order means that everything is in beautiful and perfect order.  This is true.  And in the greater meaning within the scope of this writing is that everything that unfolds in our lives are in absolute agreement with our thoughts, our feelings, and our beliefs…whether we are consciously aware of them or not.

By definition, harmony is a friendly agreement.  It also refers to synchronization or an organization (of something).  The word order in this context is defined as an arrangement or sequence (of things).  And of course divine means having a godlike nature; God; connected with, coming from, or caused by God or god or goddess. Are we beginning to see how Harmony and Divine Order are integral aspects of the way we bring to light all that we have thought into being?

So, when we are open to observing our lives from this perspective, we will see clearly that everything we are experiencing right now is the out-picturing of our inner life.  Our thoughts, feeling, emotions, our experiences, and everything in-between have created a harmonious arrangement in which the Universal Energies has responded in kind with a resounding “YES”.  We are the gods and goddesses of our own creation and are therefore, the very power behind the things that manifest in our lives and into divine order.  Please keep in mind that most of what we create is done on a subconscious level and not to be thought of harshly nor  judged.  We are only encouraged to increase the awareness of our thoughts and beliefs so that we can live more in alignment with our true self and experience life on our own terms.

We will continue to blossom and grow through this evolutionary process of our lives throughout our physical, mental and emotional experiences.  And we will continue to be guided through every interaction with the people, places and things that come our way each and every day.  While we may not enjoy every moment of what we see unfolding before us, we must begin to understand that everything we experience happens for a reason and is designed to ultimately move us into greater evolutionary states of our eternal being.  We are simply invited to accept everything as a means to guide us back into our divinity.

women green eyes fantasy art glow butterflies 1600x1200 wallpaper_www.wall321.com_16To gain a greater perspective of how our own lives unfold, we may want to observe life out in nature which has its own authentic expressions of its evolutionary processes.  We will notice how life expresses its beautiful resilience through trees, animals, birds, insects and every other living thing…all of which carry within their own kind a natural sense being, i.e. the caterpillar transforming into a beautiful butterfly.  It is through these simple observations that we will come to know who we are and how we move through our own transformations and growth by every experience that moves through us.  We will see harmony and divine order taking place at every turn, through all the breathtaking beauty we see before us, and even through the things that may not be as pleasant to watch.  This is simply the very “nature” of nature itself.  This is who we are. And this is how we allow life to move naturally through us.

And likened to the many different expressions of life in nature, it is also important to remember that while we are all divine and have many fundamental similarities, we are also unique in our individuality.  And it is from this premise that we are encouraged to design our lives in accordance with our own truth and sensibilities, for therein lies the very heart of our soulful interconnectedness.

Remember, it is within our self-reliant authentic nature that we have within us all the wisdom and every means to create our human lives into the full radiance of the light, love, joy, and divine inspiration that we already are in our spiritual essence.  And when we bring our spiritual essence in balance with our physical nature, our lives will change from the ordinary to the extraordinary.  We will experience more love, more joy, more peace, and a beautiful way of living that allows who we are in our physicality to flourish magnificently within the kind of life that continues to perpetuate the absolute truth of the divine nature of our eternal being.

So, let us learn to live more from our self-reliant nature and allow it to guide us back into our natural state of Love, Light, Joy, and Inspiration…and the I AM within us all.

Thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts with you.  Namaste’.

In Love, Light and Divine Inspiration,

Dr. Regina J. Dekker, Msc.D.





Dr. Regina J. Dekker, Msc.D.


Remembering the Soul’s Journey

thCA2B7706Through the guidance of our magnificent Soul, we are gently led into places beyond what we could ever imagine – we need only to listen, observe, and be open to the possibilities…

Our Soul is born of Spirit and at the very core of our multi-faceted being.  And it is through this radiant consciousness that we create our experiences through a process of remembering all that we are in our authentic nature.  And it is through this same radiant consciousness that we are always guided along our path whether we are aware of it or not.  Let us explore some of the many ways in which our Soul reveals to us who we truly are through the things that naturally unfold in our everyday experiences.

Let me begin by saying that our soulfulness was openly expressed when we were very young children because we were still unencumbered by all the things we have grown into through our personal experiences and environmental influences.

We need only to look at our young children to see the evidence of their amazing 57soulfulness.  The first thing we will notice is that while all children share similar traits especially within their families, they are uniquely different.  There is always something special that sets them apart from their siblings and other children.  We will witness how free they are in their personal expressions in what they say; what they like to wear, the colors they enjoy most, the people they feel most comfortable being around, how they use their creativity and imagination, what they gravitate towards in the way of art, music, and other activities, the wisdom they already possess, their zest for life, their openness, and so much more.

The truth from this perspective is that all of these things and more are still very much a part of who we are and expressed in some manner yet today.  While this may not be readily apparent, we may find that what we are doing right now in our chosen profession for instance, directly relates to what we enjoyed doing as a child.  And if we are not, we may be feeling unfulfilled and are in pursuit of what brings us joy.  The significance in both instances is that we were and are always guided by our Soul…again, whether we are aware of it or not.

When we feel unhappy or restlessness, it is our soul stirring within and guiding us to move into something that is more in alignment with itself as us.  This “stirring” is about change and moves us closer to remembering who we are.  Change is a natural part of our being…just like the changing seasons in Mother Nature.  The truth is we are no different from what we see out in nature, for we are not separate from it.  In fact, when we look closer, we will see the similarities in our transformations and growth patterns as those of trees, flowers, and every living thing.  What we will notice most of all, is that nothing can stop life from changing, growing, or transforming itself. Let us look at some of the ways in which nature continued to evolve…

calm-water-angel-fairyWhen one leaf falls from a tree, there will be others to replace it; A flower comes to full bloom when the bud is ready to open to expose its full beauty; The caterpillar changes into a magnificent butterfly; A tiny acorn grows into a mighty oak tree; weather conditions affect the growth of plants;  and so on.

So, what are we to glean from this?  As we are part of nature, we will also continue to change and evolve throughout our entire lives as well.  For example, we know that physically we grow from infancy into adulthood which is apparent through the changes that happens within and outside our bodies.  As for our emotional and mental states, we will continue to develop through every season of our experiences and what we learn through them, which incidentally affects our physical bodies as well.  It is important to accept that everything we have experienced thus far regardless of the circumstances has been a significant aspect our spiritual growth and the evolution of our beautiful Soul.

Spiritual-DoorSo, what are some of the others ways in which we are guided?  And how does it show up in our experiences today? Intuition is one of the ways our Soul most definitely speaks to us.  We receive inklings of information that resonate with us beyond what we may understand, yet know beyond reason.  For instance, have you ever had a feeling that compels you to call a family member or friend right away only to find out there was something very important they needed to tell you?  Have you ever found yourself going in a different direction than you may have planned with regards to a career or vocation, and found the perfect opportunity that feels like a dream come true?  The voice beyond reason is at work here…our intuitive voice.

How about our dreams?  Many clues are revealed through what we experience in our dreams because they hold nothing back, and provide us with honest answers to anything we may want or need to know.   It behooves us to pay close attention to them for they are indeed a powerful way in which we are guided to move forward during our waking hours.

Our Soul also can be felt and seen through the things we enjoy such as art, music, writing, and other hobbies and pastimes.  Believe it or not, there are significant messages within them.  For instance, what are we most focused on while engaging in these activities?  Pathways?  Beauty?  Light?  Flowers?  Animals?  Angels?  People?  Children?

How about the people that we gravitate toward and vice versa.  Are you surrounded psychesby, Teachers?  Artists?  Leaders? Writers? Healers?  Do you think there is something significant in these interactions?  This writer thinks so.  Remember, we attract into our lives who and what we are.

What about déjà vu?  Could this be a form of guidance for us to remember who we are?  Something to ponder is it not?  The very idea of feeling that we have experienced something before is intriguing at best even if we haven’t actually experienced it…or have we?  If nothing else, it could leave us feeling that there is much more to our life than we might imagine.

The Soul’s Journey is a beautiful unfolding of how our lives continue to evolve.  We may or may not remember everything about where we have been or where we are going, yet when we are open to all the possibilities, we will glean some insight into who we are at the deepest level of our authenticity.  We are simply encouraged to be aware and mindful along the way and recognize that we are more than what meets the eye…more than our physical being.  Remember, we are spiritual light beings having a human experience.  And as such, we have the innate power and the wisdom to look Beautiful-Angel-angels-8025041-1024-768beyond what we can ascertain through our humanity and learn to perceive life through the spiritual discernment of our higher self.  It is within and through our wholeness that we can perceive our Soul.  Being authentic is to know and accept all that we are in our wholeness…and living our lives from a realistic place of where we are in this important moment, and in balance with both our spiritual and physical nature. We have all come to the planet earth to do or learn something significant to our Soul’s Journey.

Again, listening and being observant is important if we are to uncover the truth of our own unique existence, as well as how we create harmony with other souls.  Everything we do affects everyone and everything else.  That is how life works.  The beauty is that whenever we look in the eyes of another, we see their shining soul looking back at us.  This is a beautiful exchange of energy because it gives us an inkling of how connected we really are, especially when there is an instant recognition of something profoundly familiar.  Whatever that resonance is, we are remembering something…

Overall, everything we experience serves to gently guide us into remembering more clearly the nature of our magnificent Soul and who we are through its divine expression.  And when we consciously allow ourselves to be in this natural flow of its guidance, we will take our journey even more profoundly into heightened levels of our divinity and bring to light extraordinary demonstrations of our inherent greatness.

There is so much more to learn along the way…perhaps you have other ideas as to how you are guided throughout your own life.  We are all in this life together, and it through our interactions with each other, that we begin to realize the significance of our own soulful journey and how it relates to the evolution of us all…in our Oneness.

Thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts with you.  Namaste’.

In Love, Light and Divine Inspiration,

Dr. Regina J. Dekker, Msc.D.





Dr. Regina J. Dekker, Msc.D.

The Power of Laughter

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Laughter is the catalyst for bringing forward a wide range of emotions that enables our soul to fully engage in its evolution…


We have all heard these expressions, right?  So, how exactly does laughing affect our soul, and how can it help what ails us?  We know that all of life and everything in it has a level of energy that manifests into many forms.  Laughter carries within it a high frequency of energy because it greatly affects our moods, emotions, mental states, physical health, and our sense of spiritual connection.  We all love to be around people who make us laugh, don’t we?  The joy that emanates from their sense of humor has a way of touching our souls at a deep level.  Some of these people have the innate ability to change the energy around any situation so that everyone feels lighter and more at ease.  And that is what it boils down to doesn’t it?  Isn’t the ultimate goal in life to be joyful and happy?

Is this to say that these people are always happy?  Perhaps yes, perhaps no.  Remember, happiness is a choice.  And choosing to be a happy does not necessarily mean we will be free of challenges.  How we manage to maintain our joy even through the rough times is the key.  Choosing to respond  in positive ways changes the energy around any situation for the better.  And laughter is one  way that can help us to do just that.  One of the most healing things we can do for ourselves is to not only choose to feel better, but look for ways in which we can create the kind of joy that triggers laughter and uplifts our spirit.  How can we go about this?

First of all, learning to love and embrace ourselves for exactly who we are is a great foundation for joy and happiness to play an active role in our daily lives.  It goes without saying that surrounding ourselves with people who lift our spirit is a great way to stay in our joy as well.  Carefully choosing our entertainment  is also very4556721-happy-laughing-faces-carved-out-of-wood important in keeping our energy at the level of joy.  We may want to choose movies and television programs that make us feel good and brings out the best in us.  Have you ever noticed your body’s reaction, as well as your overall feeling  by what you may be seeing, hearing and experiencing while watching a  movie for instance?  What emotions are being triggered? Are you laughing?  Does it make you feel happy?  Sad? Let us choose wisely.  It can make all the difference in our overall feeling of joy from which laughter emanates.

There are many forms of entertainment that encourage laughter.  Many of them encourage us to laugh at ourselves, which helps us in not taking ourselves too seriously.  It is however, important for us to distinguish the difference between that which is meant to be funny, and those things that are shared with laughter as a means to diminish or make fun of individuals or groups of people.  There is a fine line between what is funny and what has the appearance of humor.  Listening to our intuition, paying attention to the direction of our thoughts,  and how our bodies react to various types of humor will help us to determine what truly resonates with our  sensibilities.  Just something to consider.

Laughter has tremendous power, a kind of energy that encompasses many emotions, feelings and physical responses as mentioned earlier.  While laughing triggers joy and happiness, it can also be used to cover up what we are truly feeling.  We may incite laughter from a subconscious level  to help us overcome nervousness or to create a diversion when we feel uneasy.  Whatever the reason, for which there is no right or wrong, laughter can help us deal with any situation…hence its power.  And when we learn to live more in alignment with our authentic nature, we will be gently guided to move through those things that may be standing in the way of our true joy.  In essence, laughter is a graceful way in which our soul can evolve in all its magnificence as us because it opens up the channels for healing.

masksWhile laughter is very healing, so is crying.  It is interesting to note that laughing and crying are very closely related.  In fact, they are opposites of the same thing…joy. Have you ever started out laughing and ended up really crying?  Our laughter in this case, could have triggered the emotional pain we may be holding onto at a deep level from either a subconscious level or something we are moving through in the present.  And because crying touches the opposite side of laughing, our tears will flow naturally.  Likened to laughing, crying also serves as a healing mechanism because they both help to relieve or release the pain.  And both responses can bring us back into our joy.   There are also those occasions when we laugh and cry uncontrollably at the same time in response to something we felt was hilarious.  This again, is because we are moved at a very deep level by whatever triggered our emotions of joy…or sorrow.  Kahlil Gibran, in his book, “The Prophet” (pg. 29), shares with us his profound wisdom by stating in part that, “Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.  And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears. The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.”  Something to think about isn’t it?  From a physical standpoint, laughing and crying helps to relieve the stress and tension we may be carrying  in our bodies, and simply makes us feel better and more relaxed.

So, why does laughing in itself make us feel so good?   When we laugh, the body releases endorphins which are the chemicals that make us feel good.  Laughter promotes balance in our lives because it invokes a sense of well-being within our heart, mind, spirit, and soul.  Again, this is because laughing helps us to let go of emotional, mental, and physical pain.  Have you ever laughed so much that you forgot what you were upset about…even temporarily?  And when you stopped laughing, weren’t you in a better frame of mind and able to handle things from a different perspective?   Didn’t you feel lighter?

We are given many opportunities to laugh along our journey when we are open to it.  We may even consider cultivating a sense of humor ourselves.  Why wait for others to make us laugh?  Sharing our joy through laughter makes us feel more connected to each other, because it is a beautiful form of communication.  Most of us are so busyimages6 in our lives with all the serious stuff that has our attention.  Let us not forget to take care of our inner child by doing things that are fun and promote our sense of lightheartedness.  Let us give ourselves permission to laugh more.

A very dear friend made her transition only a few days ago.  Writing this post on laughter turned out to be very timely.  She was a magnificent example of how joy radiated through her sparkling eyes, and the ability she had to make everyone around her laugh with delight.  I can still hear her singing that silly song on her voice mail message which included her laughing at the end of it.  It makes me smile just thinking about it.  In preparing for her Celebration of Life Service, I found myself laughing out loud at all her antics.  The truth is, I also found myself crying in almost the same breath that followed my laughter.  She was and will continue to be an inspiration to all who knew her because of the joy she shared with us in spite of her challenges.  Wouldn’t it be great if we could all be remembered for our joy, our laughter and how we made others feel because of our lightheartedness?  Laughter can definitely keep us out of our heads and into our hearts.  Thank you angel for sharing your love, light, and laughter with us while you were here.  Your beautiful spirit will always be a source of joy throughout eternity.

What about smiling?  How does that relate to the power of laughter?  Smiling is a radiant prelude to laughter.  Wearing a smile sends a powerful message  into the Universe that we are open to the joys of life.  Heartfelt smiling like laughing, is positive energy, and influences the way we touch others and ultimately experience our lives.  So, let us smile and laugh wholeheartedly together in divine harmony with the understanding that doing so affects greatly our own and collective well-being.  Let us be spontaneous in our joy.  Did you know that sharing our joy raises the vibration of the love within us all?   And by the way, when was the last time you really laughed…out loud?

Thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts with you.  Namaste’.

In Love, Light and Divine Inspiration,

Dr. Regina J. Dekker, Msc.D.





Dr. Regina J. Dekker, MscD.

Reflections of the Soul

LadyByPoolOfWater-Fantasy-AnimatedWhen we reflect on our life and the experiences thereof, our Soul reflects back to us profound clues and insights into our true nature and what is most beneficial to our well-being…

As we enter the New Year, let us move gracefully forward on our pathway with a sense of renewed enthusiasm knowing that all we have experienced this past year has brought us deeper into our spiritual journey.  We have seen many changes in our own lives as well as in the world around us.  We have had triumphs and circumstances that have challenged us.  We have been inspired by others and have been an inspiration.  We have fulfilled many dreams.  We have given our gifts of love and support to those in need here and abroad.  We have supported each other.  We have done our part to protect the planet and our environment.  We have taken care of our families and friends alike.  We have lost loved ones, and have welcomed new souls.  All of these things and more have been ingrained into our Soul with a resounding yet gentle force so that we can grow more profoundly into our greatness.

Our Soul holds within it everything that has ever occurred in our lives.  It is the core of our being…our memory bank.  Therefore, reflecting on what we have lived during the past year could give us many insights into the things we may want to change or improve upon.  Perhaps we will feel a sense of fulfillment and are inspired to do more in the way of making a difference in the world.   Whatever it may be, taking time to reflect invokes the Divine Spirit within and along with our magnificent Soul can help us refocus our energies into living more in alignment with who we are in our wholeness…our authentic self.

The ebbs and flows of life are something beautiful to observe because each movement brings the promise of life unfolding in ways we may not even recognize.  Everything we have gone through this past year, and throughout our whole life for that matter,  has brought us to this point in our lives.  Regardless of whether we reveled in our light or we spent time in our own darkness, each experience has contributed to our evolution in life-altering ways.

For instance, it is easy to see beauty in the times when we have experienced joy.  Joy is immeasurable and has the potential for expressing itself in miraculous ways.  It is infectious.  It radiates from within and outwardly into our experiences with an incredible force of vibrant energy.  Conversely, what about those times when we have felt angry or disappointed with a situation or the people involved?  Do we see the beauty in these moments?  Are we open to exploring the wisdom behind these circumstances?  Are we open to the idea that these experiences are clues into something within us that may be asking for change?  Are we ready to accept our Soul reflecting back to us our own truth?

Reflecting on these things does require that we become completely honest with ourselves.  Living in any kind of denial limits our potential for growth.  We are encouraged to explore the emotions that come up during challenging times.  When our feelings are hurt for example, could we have unknowingly projected our own expectations into the situation and onto the people involved?  Recognize that when we do this, we set ourselves up to feel hurt.  None of us thinks exactly the same way about anything in life, whether it be about love, traditions, family, religion, politics, etc.  It is only when we learn to let go of what we expect others to be, that we will find a kind of inner peace that can transcend any hurtful feeling or emotion.

Everything happens for a reason.  There are no coincidences in the people we encounter or the things that occur in our interactions.  We may or may not come to know the reason, but have faith that there is always something beautiful that comes out of any situation.   We need only to be open to seeing it.  By the way, it is of the utmost importance to love and accept who we are in our totality…what we deem our light and that which we call our dark or shadow side.  So, when we are faced with challenging situations, let’s give ourselves permission to feel all of our emotions regardless of what they are.  It is my belief that when emotions and feelings are not acknowledged with care, they will be expressed unconsciously in ways that may not be in our best interest or anyone else in our environment.

We are encouraged however, to gently process our feelings and emotions and allow ourselves to be still trusting that we are always guided.  And when we are truly ready, more will be revealed in the form of divine wisdom letting us know how to move forward.  Our truth will vibrate warmly within us with a greater sense of acceptance and compassion not only for ourselves but for everyone involved.  Reflections based on this premise will go far in our making decisions and choices that keep us living in our own integrity.  Our Soul knows what that is, and our Spirit definitely knows how to help us get there.

We will encounter many heart-opening surprises throughout our journey back into our wholeness, we need only to become aware of the form they have taken. And surprises, much like any other experience are filled with the promise of revealing the truth about where we have been, where we are now, and where we may be heading.  Being open to life and our unfoldment is a beautiful thing…it makes us more grateful for every experience and the beautiful people who make them come alive.

So, what does this upcoming year hold for us?  May I suggest…whatever we want to create and put into beautiful motion.   No need to make New Year’s resolutions from my perspective.  There is nothing to resolve…we just continue evolving in consciousness right from where we are now in this moment.  Let us simply take time to reflect and make everyday a New Beginning.

Thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts with you.

Much Love and many Peaceful Blessings in the New Year.  Namaste’.


Dr. Regina J. Dekker, Msc.D.





Dr. Regina J. Dekker, Msc.D.